By Gillian Pietrowski
Vulnerability tends to prevent a lot of us from pursuing something we want. We prefer to not have others look at us as helpless or not capable of achieving something on our own. Whether it is asking for a promotion at work, trying out for a team or simply raising your hand in class when you don’t understand something. What can you do to overcome this obstacle that is holding you back?
The first thing to realize is that most people feel the same way you do. Putting yourself out there for others to critique and judge can be a difficult thing to wrap your head around. You need to remind yourself that you are not alone. Although you might not be happy with it when people critique you or your work, it is often constructive and well-meant and really helps in the long run.
Being able to handle the judgment of others can only make you stronger. People are always going to have something to say about what you are doing, but being able to handle it will allow you to put yourself out there more. By going out and actually asking for the help you need overcome the negativity. Stay true to what you are pursuing, no matter who says what.
Many famous people have failed before they became anything. They used their failure as a platform to improve their work and continue toward their goal. Dr. Seuss was rejected 27 times by different publishers before he got his first book published. Movie director, Steven Spielberg was rejected twice from University of Southern California film school. Also the Beatles were told they would never have a shot because guitar bands were no longer a thing; soon enough they signed with a record label and became one of the more beloved bands in history. These people were told no and turned that into a yes by never quitting and improving themselves.
People will tell you no, but you need to find the courage to persevere and change that no into a yes. Continue on the path toward what you want because the more you fail the more grateful you will be once you succeed.