Last night I was watching an episode of MTV’s 16 and Pregnant which, let’s face it, is one of the best forms of birth control anyone’s been able to come up. Kudos MTV. Anyway, I was thoroughly disturbed by the sheer idiocy of one girl in particular. She was fortunate enough to have a beautiful little girl named Nova however, she seemed thoroughly surprised when it hit her that her boyfriend or ex-boyfriend or whatever he is, is going to be a dead beat daddy.
The new mom talks about how he was never exactly Prince Charming, treating her with less respect then any young lady feels they deserve. She then went on to say that, right after their daughter was born, he left her at the hospital to go play basketball with his friends. First of all, are you serious? That is one of the most ludicrous things I have ever heard. My question is how in the world did you ever think this guy was going to support you and be there for his child?
If he was a seemingly crappy boyfriend to begin with, did you think he was just going to majestically change overnight and become world’s greatest dad? Very unlikely. Which was made all the more apparent when he went to her house to see his daughter. He sat on his cell phone texting the entire time, not to mention that he showed up with one of his “bros” and preceded to not speak to his baby mama at all. When the baby started to cry because she was hungry, a look of pure panic ran across his face and you could see that he wanted out right then and there.
I am by no means trying to convey a message of abstinence in this article. I am very aware of how unrealistic that would be. My point is more to the young ladies of LIU Post; choose wisely. You don’t ever want to be put in the kind of position that this girl is now facing; too young for a baby but stuck with one to raise on her own while trying to pursue an education. One of the guys you date in college could be the person you spend the rest of your life with. Make sure you are being treated the way you deserve to be, with respect, loyalty, and love.